Every year we observe Memorial day with our own service, with friends of our family invited. It is not required, and embraces several religious backgrounds. Since the first few members we buried were Jewish, we read kaddish, keeping the memory of our dead alive in our hearts, followed by other forms from other traditions. We read poems we find appropriate, sing Willie MacBride, and Flowers of the Forrest, ending with Amazing Grace.
While simple and short, it has a great emotional impact, cathartic and healing, as we remember, share our losses and bring life to the memory of loved ones.